Masc Top , Femme Bottom, And How Does A Strap Work

Label sometimes helps. and end up sometimes be stereotype that butch lesbians are always tops and femme lesbians are always bottoms. Sound familiar? though it can help us express ourselves, but can also put us in boxes we don’t really need. And seriously, the whole butch-top/femme-bottom thing is kind of outdated, don’t you think?

Now, if those labels work for you, that’s cool! But for a lot of us, it’s way more fun to keep things flexible and mix it up. I mean, Not everybody stays in one situation and wont change at all. sometimes we change for love, for pleasure ,for trying . then the "H" is coming out. Half masc half femme... isn't the point of breaking away from the heteronormative world to create something more open and exciting? We deserve that kind of freedom , even in the bedroom.

PleasureTop and Prince Pillow: It’s About Action

When we talk about "tops" and "bottoms," it’s usually about who’s doing what during sex—who’s giving and who’s receiving. In straight relationships, this is often connected to anatomy, but thankfully, we’re not bound by those rules.We can be switch . However, this mindset has kind of slipped into queer spaces, making it seem like butches have to be the givers and femmes are always the receivers.

But here’s the deal—there are no rules. Some of us love switching things up, and that’s totally okay. Whoever’s strapping on a harness can take charge, no matter how they identify, strap on harness is a normal lesbian sex toys to increase dual pleasure. And speaking of harnesses, the Crassie Adjustable Strap-On Harness is the perfect tool for feeling sexy and in control, whether it’s your first time or your fiftieth. Some of us prefer brief harness or jock harness because they connect the feeling , Skin to Skin.

This isn't about replacing anyone (definitely not about replacing men, ‘cause let’s face it—we know how to make ourselves way happier!). It’s about adding something fun and intimate to your time together.

Position Matters, But Not Like You Think

When we think about being a top or bottom, it’s easy to imagine it’s all about who’s literally on top. We’ve all seen those movies, right? But here’s the thing: that’s just one way to play! Some femmes love to take charge, getting the exact stimulation they crave by being on top.

Now, if you bring in a jock harness—the game changes, the skin-to-skin contact you get with a harness like this takes things to a whole new level. You’ll feel closer, more connected, and honestly, it just makes everything feel better.

Sensuality Isn’t Just About Penetration
Topping and bottoming isn’t just about who does what during sex. It’s also about how you connect physically in other ways, like eye contact, the connecting between you and your partner, staring , full of love, sexy and charming. Some people are all about giving affection, while others are more into receiving. Whether it’s snuggling, holding, or getting even closer with your strap-on briefs, these roles can be part of all types of intimacy.

Using a dildo harness can add a fun layer to that connection. The right harness will have you feeling confident and powerful, which in turn boosts that bond between you and your partner. And let’s be honest—when you’re both feeling great, everything’s way more fun. 

Who’s in Control? You Decide!
Here’s the fun part: control in the bedroom doesn’t have to be one-sided. Some love taking charge (whether that’s using a strap on harness briefs ), while others love sharing control or switching roles. The great thing about queer sex is that there are no set rules—you and your partner can make it exactly what you want.

With something like the Crassie Adjustable Strap On Harness, you can explore that dynamic however you like. Whether you’re taking the lead or letting your partner be in charge, this harness adapts to whatever feels right for you.

It’s All About Fun and Connection
At the end of the day, sex—and intimacy—is about connecting and having fun together. Whether you’re a pleasure top, princess pillow, Half hald, or just love trying new things, the goal is for you both to feel comfortable, happy, and excited. There’s no right or wrong way to play—just do what feels right for both of you!