For Every Lesbian Couple Raising Kids—This Mothers’ Day Is Yours

Hey, I’m Bridge. I’m not a mom (yet), but I have deep love and admiration for the lesbian couples in our community who are raising kids with so much tenderness and strength. Mothers' Day can be beautiful, emotional, and sometimes...a little complicated.

It’s a day full of joy and affirmation—but it also highlights how the world still has a long way to go when it comes to recognizing queer families. And that’s exactly why I wanted to write this—to honor every two-mom family out there, and to remind you: this day is yours.

What Mothers' Day Looks Like in a Two-Mom Household

Some people think Mothers' Day is simple—breakfast in bed, a card, maybe a bouquet. But for two moms, it’s layered with meaning.

Maybe your little one came home with just one handmade card from school. Not because they forgot about you—but because their teacher still hasn’t learned that you’re both moms.

Maybe you're still navigating how to gently explain to your child’s classmates or caregivers that no, your family doesn’t have a dad—and that’s perfectly okay.

These little exclusions pile up:

Birthday parties where only one mom gets the invite.

Doctor forms with “Mother” and “Father” blanks.

Strangers who ask, “So who’s the real mom?”

It hurts.

And yet, amidst the emotional labor, the explaining, and the re-teaching, you still show up with patience and love. That deserves more than a greeting card. It deserves celebration.

So How Do We Reclaim This Day? With Joy, Loud and Quiet.

Here’s the truth: You don’t need permission to celebrate Mothers’ Day as Mothers’ Day. This is your family, your story, and you get to shape the celebration.

Here are some ways two-mom families I know are making it their own:

 Family Picnics in the Park
Let the kids help pack the basket. Grab juice boxes, sandwiches, and bubbles. Bring a Bluetooth speaker for cheesy tunes. Laugh loud. Take silly selfies. Make this your tradition.

 “Double the Moms” Greeting Cards
Some moms I know helped their kids create two handmade cards—one for each mom, with different messages. It doesn’t confuse the kids. It honors both of you. Don’t be afraid to ask teachers or caretakers to support this. It’s education and affirmation.

 Two Cakes, Two Toasts
Celebrate separately—and together. Each mom gets a cupcake with a candle, or a note from your child. Then you toast together as a team, because this is the foundation of your family.

 Craft a Ritual
A short poem. A foot soak together. Or maybe reading the same bedtime story you read when your child was born. Small rituals become anchors. Start one this year.

The Kids Are Sleeping… It’s Just the Two of You

After the chaos of the day—the hugs, the “Mommy, look!” moments, and maybe even a little glitter in your coffee—it’s finally night. The kids are tucked in, the dishes are done, and now it’s just the two of you.

Here’s where that quiet kind of intimacy matters.

Whether you’ve been together for a few years or over a decade, nights like this are a reminder: you’re not just co-parents—you’re lovers, partners, chosen family.

Maybe tonight, it’s time to reconnect—not as “Mom #1” and “Mom #2”—but as you and her.

Now? It’s your turn to receive.

Mothers’ Day doesn’t end at bedtime.

When the lights dim and the house quiets down, it’s okay to turn toward each other. To whisper, to touch, to laugh again. To be more than just “Mom.”

Here’s what I love about the Crassie community—we don’t tiptoe around pleasure. We own it.

So if tonight is the night you reconnect physically, make it joyful.

You don’t have to go full Fifty Shades. Maybe it’s just slow kisses, laughter, touching where it feels good, and letting the day melt away together.

These moments are what keep you connected—not just as moms, but as partners in every way.

Some couples unwrap a strap on kit—like the ones we designed with comfort and closeness in mind. Our dual density dildos mimic the feel of skin: soft outside, firm inside, with a gentle curve that knows where to land.

Or maybe you love double ended dildos—two sides, both giving and receiving, no “top” or “bottom,” just you and her, in rhythm.

And if you're still learning? That’s okay too. Crassie’s strap on kits for beginners were made for nights like this—easy to wear, soft to touch, and ready for slow, exploratory play.

No pressure. Just presence.

To the Rest of the World—See Us

If you're a teacher, a neighbor, a friend, or even just someone reading this out of curiosity—let this be your reminder.

Queer families are real. Two-mom families are complete families. And when you only make one card, only acknowledge one parent, or avoid asking questions out of discomfort, you erase something beautiful.

So ask. Learn. Support.

Say “both your moms.”

Send two cards.

Bring them both flowers.

Let every kid know that love doesn’t come in just one shape.

Visibility isn’t just rainbow flags and parades—it’s a child knowing they have two moms, and that’s not strange or “extra”—it’s powerful.

It’s saying, “Yes, I’m a mom,” even when forms ask for a dad.

It’s teaching our kids that love makes a family, and that everyone deserves to be seen, heard, and celebrated.

So if this Mothers’ Day feels bittersweet, let me say this:

You matter. Both of you.

You’re not half of a family. You’re the heart of it.

To every lesbian couple waking up on Mothers’ Day: May your day be filled with joy, softness, and at least one quiet moment where you feel truly seen.