Best Dual Density Dildos for Lesbians

Okay, as someone who’s had her fair share of trial and error with strap ons, I used to think any old dildo would do the job. I’d slap it into my harness, adjust the straps, and… yeah, sometimes it worked, but often it felt off. Too stiff. Too cold. Too fake.

That’s when I found dual density dildos—and everything changed.

If you’re new to the term, no worries. I was too. A dual density dildo basically has two layers: a soft outer layer that feels real, and a firmer core that gives it structure. Think soft but not floppy, firm but not plastic-hard. It’s kind of magical, to be honest. It moves with your body and your rhythm—and it’s the closest thing I’ve felt to that deep, body-melting connection during strap-on sex.

 Material Matters — Because Our Bodies Deserve Better

I’ve learned the hard way (pun intended) that not all toys are created equal. When I found dual density silicone dildo, what made me trust it right away was the 100% body-safe platinum silicone.

This matters a lot to us. I’ve bought cheap toys before—ones that looked cute but felt sketchy, smelled weird, or started getting sticky after a few months. With Crassie, I finally found a toy that’s:

• Hypoallergenic

• Non-porous (hello, easier cleaning!)

• Phthalate- and latex-free

• And totally smooth with that velvet-touch finish that feels incredible.

If you’ve got sensitive skin like me—or you’re just done with mystery materials—this is where material truly matters.

I’ve chatted with other friends in our circles and online, and I’m seeing the same thing: dual density dildos are becoming the go-to toy. The feedback is almost universal:

• “It doesn’t feel like a plastic stick anymore. It moves with me.”

• “My partner said it was the first time it felt ‘real’ and not like a performance.”

• “I didn’t think I’d be into penetrative play… until this.”

There’s a reason communities on Reddit, Tumblr, and queer-friendly forums are buzzing about the best dual density dildo options. They’re not just toys; they’re tools for deeper connection, body confidence, and actual pleasure.

Here’s what I’ve struggled with—and maybe you have too:

• Too-stiff dildos that made things uncomfortable

• Awkward harness experiences where the toy didn't feel like a part of me

• Disconnection between me and my partner, like we were just going through motions

Dual density dildos solve all of that. They feel right against my body, they bend just enough for comfort, and they help me feel more present in the moment—less focused on the gear, more connected to us.

 The Best Use Scenarios (Yes, I’ve Tried These)

Let me give you a peek into our life:

 Bedroom — Classic & Cozy

We use Crassie’s green dual density dildo with our favorite boxer harness. It’s perfect for face-to-face play or lazy spooning where we want closeness and soft touches.

 Living Room — Bold & Bouncy

Yep, we’ve tried it on the couch. It’s sturdy enough for positions like lap-sitting and riding. You feel it, they feel it, and it feels real.

 Mirror Play — Sensual & Intimate

With the right harness and angle, you can even do standing play. Watching your partner take you while you’re in full control? 

 How to Choose the Best Dual Density Dildo (From Someone Who’s Tried Them All)

1. Size: Don’t start with a monster. Trust me. Crassie’s dual density silicone dildo comes in different lengths and girths for comfort level.

2. Color: We love the pastel green one. It feels ours, not like some awkward faux-skin color. It’s part of the reason the colours dual density dildo line is so popular.

3. Harness Fit: Boxer or brief harnesses work best. I pair mine with Crassie’s boxer strap on harness because it’s comfy and stays tight. No wiggling!

4. Vibes or No Vibes: Some harnesses let you add a bullet vibe to stimulate your clit while you’re strapped in. Don’t sleep on this option.

 A Few Fool-Proof Tips (Because I Wish Someone Told Me)

• Use water-based lube. Always. It keeps the silicone in great shape.

• Clean it after every use. Warm water and gentle soap do the trick.

• Warm it up. Seriously. Put it under a warm towel or run it under warm water for 30 seconds. That soft, warm feeling? 

If you’ve ever felt like strap-on sex wasn’t "for you" or that the toys out there didn’t understand us, I want you to know: it’s not your fault. We’ve had to settle for many toys that weren’t made with our bodies or our desires in mind.

But we don’t have to settle anymore.

A dual density dildo changed how I feel during sex—with my partner, and with myself. And yeah, I say this as a woman who never thought she’d be into penetration. But when you’ve got a toy that feels soft, moves like a body, and actually listens to your rhythm? It stops being about performance and starts being about pleasure.

So whether you’re flying solo or loving someone else, take it from me: dual density is worth it.

And if you’re ready? Crassie’s got your back. 🌈