Being quuers doesn’t mean your body suddenly changes or stops responding to pleasure. Your nerve endings are still very much alive, and exploring different types of stimulation can be just as exciting.

Most of queer women prefer using hands or vibrating dildo for queers sex , but strap on with harness can offer a unique experience. They provide a hands-free option, allowing a partner to focus on other forms of touch, like holding or caressing. Plus,some strap on dildo harness are designed for mutual pleasure, stimulating both the wearer and the receiver at the same time. Unlike the traditional give-and-take dynamic of many queer encounters, these options let both partners experience heightened sensations together.

Lesbian sex is about two women connecting and having pleasure in ways that feel good to them. Some enjoy penetration, and for those who do, strap on and harness offer new depths and angles that go beyond what fingers can achieve. It’s all about discovering what works best for you and your partner.

Lesbian Sex Toys Strap Ons  For queers

As we’ve said, lesbian having sex is that lesbians are attracted to women, not men. You can be lesbian and still enjoy penetrative sex. strap ons are an exciting way for queer couples to enhance intimacy, experience deeper penetration, and explore new sensations. But where do you start? Choosing the right strap on toys, setting the mood, and communicating openly are key to creating a pleasurable and fulfilling experience.

Whether you're trying strap on sex toy for the first time or looking to upgrade your queer sex toys collection, we will walk you through everything you need to know—from setting the scene to picking the best vibrating strap-ons for mutual pleasure.

Set A Lovely Vibe for Strap On Play

Setting the mood is essential, talking and looking in each eyes sexly will bring a lot spark.

✨ Soft blankets & cushions – lay down on cozy textures on the couch or floor for a comfy and inviting space.
🕯 Mood lighting – Dim the overhead lights and opt for warm, ambient lighting with candles or soft lamps.
🌿 Sensual scents – Use scented candles or incense like lavender, vanilla, or sandalwood to enhance relaxation and arousal.

and bring in the strap on sex toys when ready,

Best Strap On Kits for beginner dildo Pleasure

1. The Perfect Beginner Strap on Set: Dual Density Pink Dildo and Jock Harness  

🔹 Why It’s Great for First-Timers:
This kit includes a dual density dildo—soft on the outside, firm on the inside—for a lifelike, gentle introduction to strap-on play. The jock harness straps tigh, and you got full control, and it is easy, comfortable fit, and the dual density dildo wont go anywhere when penetration.

💗 Best For:
✔ First-time strap on users
✔ Couples exploring penetration play
✔ Those who want a comfortable, easy-to-use starter strap on kit

2. Hands-Free Vibrating Dildo for Mutual Pleasure

👉 Try the Blue Vibrating Dildo

This small vibrating dildo brings pleasure to both partners. Many believe there’s “no feeling” for the strap wearer, but this vibrator dildos solve that problem—the vibrations at the base, stimulating the wearer’s clit and mound with every thrust.

💙 Best For:
✔ Couples who want mutual pleasure during strap-on play
✔ boxer harness for studs wearer looking for enhanced stimulation
✔ Those exploring G-spot and hands-free play

🔥 Pro Tip: Pair this with Crassie’s Boxer Harness for a secure, natural-feeling experience!

3. G Spot Dildo Perfection: The Curved Dildo for Maximum Stimulation

🔹 Why You Need This in Your Collection:
A curved dildo is a must-have for queer couples because it’s designed to hit the G spot effortlessly, leading to deep, toe-curling pleasure.

💜 Best For:
✔ Couples who want maximum G-spot stimulation
✔ Those who prefer a more natural, connected penetration experience
✔ Anyone looking for a classic, tried-and-true strap on dildo

🔥 Pair It With: Crassie’s Brief Harness for stability, easy put on , control, and seamless pleasure.

How to Use A Dildo For The First Time​

Now that you have your lesbian sex toys, it’s time to explore lesbian sex positions that maximize pleasure.

💦 1. Face-to-Face on the Couch:

Sit comfortably with your partner on your lap, facing you.

This allows for deep penetration, strong eye contact, and intimacy.

💦 2. Doggy Style on the Floor:

The receiving partner gets on all fours while the giver positions behind.

Ideal for deep penetration and G-spot stimulation with a curved dildo.

💦 3. Lying Down with a Vibrating Strap-On:

The strap-wearer lays on their back while the receiving partner grinds on top.

Perfect for hands-free stimulation and dual pleasure from vibrations.

Pro Tip: Adjust the angle of your curved or vibrating dildo for optimal clit or G-spot contact.

Intimacy Beyond the Bedroom: Erotic Games & Foreplay Ideas

Strap on sex isn’t just about penetration—it’s about building trust, excitement, and connection. Here’s how to spice up playtime before diving in:

💆 Sensual Massage: Use oils or lotions to explore erogenous zones like the neck, shoulders, back, and thighs.
🎭 Role-Playing & Erotic Games: Use props, costumes, or storylines to create a playful, thrilling experience.
🔥 Mutual Masturbation: Use vibrators or dildos while making eye contact to deepen intimacy and pleasure.

Strap-on sex is about pleasure, connection, and exploration—and the right gear makes all the difference. Whether you're:

✔ A beginner looking for a soft silicone dildo , easy-to-use.
✔ Boxer harness for studs
✔ A couple craving dual pleasure with a vibrating dildo

🔥 Crassie has the perfect toy for you!

👉 Explore our full collection strap on kits  & take your pleasure to the next level today!