Lesbian Strap On Sex Toys Safety Guide | Body Safe Toys & Positions

Being a lesbian, I know that penetrative sex isn’t for everyone—but for those of us who enjoy it, safety, comfort, and confidence are key. Whether you’re trying it for the first time with strap on or just looking to make your experience smoother and more pleasurable, understanding how to prepare, what materials to trust, and how to take care of yourself and your partner can make all the difference.

Since I started Crassie Sex Toys, we have aimed to create body-safe, thoughtfully designed strap on sex toys that fit the way lesbian have sex. This means Crassie provides the best strapon dildo that feels right, strapon harnesses that stay in place, and platinum silicone materials that put safety first. So let’s talk about how to enjoy penetrative sex in a way that feels good, secure, and totally on your terms.

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Step 1: Preparing for a Safe & Comfortable Experience

✔ Know What Feels Right for You – Not every lesbian is into penetration, and that’s fine. But if you’re curious, take your time. Start with fingers, a small dildo, or even a vibrating toy to see what sensations feel best for your body.

✔ Communicate Openly with Your Partner – Whether you’re trying strap-on sex for the first time or you’ve done it before, talking about what feels good, what doesn’t, and what your boundaries are is essential. Sex is supposed to be a pleasurable, shared experience—not just about penetration.

✔ Use Body-Safe Lube – Friction can make things uncomfortable, especially if it’s your first time using a strap-on dildo. A high-quality, water-based lube is perfect for keeping things smooth and pleasurable.

✔ Choose the Right Size Dildo – If you’re new to strap-on penetration, start small. The Minimalist Pink Dual-Density Dildo from Crassie is a great option for beginners—soft on the outside, firm on the inside, and designed to feel gentle but satisfying. 

                                                                     

Step 2: Choosing Body-Safe Toys for a Worry-Free Experience

The materials of your strap-on dildo and harness matter just as much as the experience itself. Not all sex toys are safe—many on the market are made with harmful chemicals, porous materials, or cheap straps that don’t hold up. That’s why I always recommend using high-quality, body-safe sex toys designed specifically for lesbians.

✔ Platinum Silicone Dildos – All of Crassie’s dildos are made from 100% platinum silicone, which is non-porous, hypoallergenic, and completely safe for your body. Unlike jelly or rubber toys, which can harbor bacteria, silicone is easy to clean and long-lasting.

✔ Adjustable, Secure Harnesses – A good strapon harness should hold your dildo firmly in place without shifting during play. Whether you prefer a brief harness, a jock-style harness, or an adjustable one, Crassie’s harnesses are designed to fit your body snugly, keeping you in control while feeling completely natural.

✔ Vibrating & Dual-Density Options – Some lesbians worry that wearing a strap-on means they won’t feel anything—but that’s not true! A vibrating strap-on dildo with a base that presses against your mound can add stimulation for the wearer. The Crassie Vibrating Blue Dildo is perfect for this, offering strong, deep vibrations for both partners.

💡 Pro Tip: If you want to feel even more connected, try a double-ended dildo or a harness with a bullet vibrator pocket for extra sensation.

                                                                     

Step 3: Choosing Safe & Comfortable Strap-On Sex Positions

Not all positions feel good for everybody. The key is finding something that keeps you and your partner comfortable, relaxed, and in sync. Here are some of my favorites that work great with a strap-on harness:

Position 1: Face-to-Face (Missionary Style) 

A classic that allows for eye contact, kissing, and close body connection. 

How-To:

1. Receiver lies back with a pillow under their hips.
2. Wearer kneels and leans forward (use our Brief Harness for better control).
3. Start SLOW—gentle thrusts + constant check-ins like “More pressure?”

“This position helped my partner and I laugh through first-time nerves!” – Jamie, Crassie Community

 Position 2: Spooning

 If you want slow, sensual penetration, spooning is perfect. 

How-To:

1. Both partners lie on their sides, receiver’s back to wearer’s chest.
2. Wearer wraps one leg over receiver’s hip for leverage.
3. Use a slim dildo to focus on rocking motions.

⚠️ Avoid: Overarching your back—keep spines aligned!

Position 3: Cowgirl (Receiver Leads)

If your partner likes to control the depth and pace, this is a great option. 

How-To:

1. Receiver straddles wearer (who sits against a wall/headboard).
2. Wearer grips receiver’s hips while they control the rhythm.
3. Add vibration: Tuck a bullet vibe into the harness’ pocket.

 Position 4: Doggy Style

Doggy Style For deep penetration and G-spot stimulation, this is one of the best positions. A secure jock-style harness with strong support will help you keep control.

Step 4: Post-Sex Care & Cleaning for Safe, Long-Term Use

After a good session, the last thing you want is to deal with irritation or infections because of improper toy care. Here’s how to keep your strap-on dildo and harness in top condition:

✔ Clean Your Dildo Properly – Since Crassie’s dildos are 100% platinum silicone, they can be cleaned with warm water and mild soap.

✔ Wash Your Harness – Most fabric harnesses are machine washable—just throw them in a laundry bag and wash on gentle. Leather or synthetic harnesses should be wiped down with a damp cloth and mild cleaner.

✔ Store Your Toys Correctly – Keep your toys in a clean, dry place. Avoid storing silicone toys next to each other to prevent material breakdown. We will give a gift bag with every order to help protect the toys.

✔ Listen to Your Body – If anything feels off after sex, pay attention. Minor discomfort is normal, but ongoing irritation could mean you need a different size, more lube, or a break.

So at the end of the day, strap-on sex should be fun, exciting, and completely on your terms. Whether you’re exploring for the first time or looking for ways to make your experience even better, the key is safety, comfort, and the right toys. Pls

Invest in quality materials.
Communicate openly with your partner.
Experiment, explore, and most importantly—enjoy it.

If you’re ready to find the perfect strap-on dildo, harness, or body-safe sex toy, Crassie has exactly what you need. Explore our collection and take your pleasure to the next level.