For too long, most strap on toys felt like an afterthought—like someone took a product meant for straight couples, painted it pink, and tossed it into a “lesbian section.” We noticed. We felt the discomfort. And now? We’re saying “no thanks” to mediocrity.

In 2025, things are shifting. And not a moment too soon.

The Rise of Queer-Focused Design in Lesbian Sex Toys

There’s finally a real demand for toys made for us. Not just toys that work, but toys that feel right—designed with our bodies, relationships, and aesthetics in mind.

Designers are listening. Brands like Crassie, founded by lesbians (like yours truly), are designing with actual feedback from our community. The result? Strap-on kits and double-ended dildos that look better, feel better, and make sex feel more like play than problem-solving.

Why Material Matters—Especially for Lesbians

Let’s talk about silicone. Specifically, body-safe silicone—the soft, non-porous, hypoallergenic material that’s finally become the standard for quality toys. When you’re using toys intimately with your partner, you want to know it’s safe, cleanable, and durable. That’s non-negotiable.

Unfortunately, many cheaper toys still use porous materials that can harbor bacteria or get sticky over time. We’re not about that. Whether it’s a strap on harness, a dual density dildo, or a double ended dildo, Crassie uses only platinum silicone, with a soft finish that feels luxurious and is 100% non-toxic.

Learning How to Strap Up Shouldn’t Be Confusing

Even as a queer adult, my first time strapping on was nerve-wracking. Which harness? What kind of dildo? Am I doing this right?

That’s why educational content around strap ons is having a moment. We’re sharing guides, making tutorials, and creating a culture where exploring pleasure feels safe—not shameful.

Want my advice?

Talk It Out First

So, who’s strapping in tonight? That’s a conversation worth having. Some couples love clearly defined roles—one takes the lead, the other receives. But hey, that’s not the rule. Plenty of us enjoy switching it up, trying both sides of the harness. There’s no one right way to play—just the way that works for you and your partner.

Take It Nice and Slow

Strap-on play isn’t about going fast and furious—especially not in the beginning. Since you won’t have the same direct feedback as with fingers, slow is your best friend. Be patient, be present, and most importantly… use more lube than you think. Seriously, double it.

If It Feels Off, Don’t Sweat It

Trying something new always has a learning curve. Maybe the angle’s weird, the harness doesn’t sit right, or the dildo isn’t quite doing its thing. That’s okay. It doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you or your partner—it just means you're figuring things out. Add a clit vibe, switch positions, change the rhythm, or try again tomorrow. Exploration is part of the fun.

Keep It Clean, Keep It Fresh

You already know this, but let’s say it anyway: wash your toys and harness after every session. It’s about respect—for your body and your partner. Use gentle soap and warm water, and store everything dry and lint-free. Clean toys = safe, sexy fun.

Our Favorite Crassie Strap On Kits for Lesbian Couples

At Crassie, we designed every kit to solve real problems our community faces: poor fit, lack of control, uncomfortable materials, and toys that just feel… wrong. Each product is plus size friendly, body-safe, and lesbian-tested. Here are six favorites to spice up your nights—and days.

 1. Vibrating Strap On Harness Kit

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• A sleek harness paired with a bullet-vibe-ready dildo base for dual pleasure. Great for hands-free stimulation.

• Adds clit stimulation for the wearer. Perfect for power plays and slow sensual sessions alike.

 2. Snugher Boxer Strap On Kit with Dual Density Dildo

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• Made like your favorite pair of boxer briefs—secure, breathable, and oh-so-snug.

• No more adjusting straps mid-thrust. Just pull it on and go. Bonus: dual density means it feels real.

 3. Dual Density Dildo and Harness Strap On Starter Kit

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• Simple, effective, and forgiving. A perfect first-time harness set with a soft-yet-firm dildo.

• Easy to wear, easy to clean, and makes you feel like a pro without the stress.

 4. Crassie Kit – Blue Dildo Strap On and Harness

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• A dreamy deep-blue silicone dildo with a minimal black harness.

• Cute, firm, and fabulous. And that color? We stan a stylish top.

 5. Vibrating Strap On Harness Underwear Kits

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• Styled like soft-fit briefs but engineered for power. Comes with pockets for vibes and snug o-ring support.

•  The most comfortable pair of underwear you’ll ever… you know, wear into battle.

 6. Double Ended Dildo – Crassie’s Classic

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• A flexible, curved design for shared penetration. Slide in and move as one.

• It’s the ultimate we're-in-this-together toy. Perfect for mirror sex, face-to-face play, or switching roles without skipping a beat.

Why All of This Matters

I’m tired of pretending that lesbian sex is niche or complicated or doesn’t deserve good gear. We matter. Our sex matters. Our pleasure matters.

Buying a good strap-on kit or a double dildo isn’t just about orgasm (though yes, obviously, that’s important). It’s about owning your pleasure—and doing it with tools that reflect our community’s values: comfort, safety, beauty, consent, and fun.

At Crassie, we’re not selling you a fantasy of what lesbian sex should be. We’re giving you tools to make it everything you want it to be.

So, go ahead. Pick your kit. Try something new. Let your partner know you’ve got plans tonight.

And remember—pleasure is power, babe.