How to Make the Strap On Moment Sexy 

You’re halfway through foreplay — lips, moans, soft laughter — and then it happens.

That moment. The strap on pause.

Your partner is on the bed, breathless and ready, while you’re fumbling with buckles like you’re defusing a bomb. You both laugh, but inside, you’re thinking, “This was supposed to be hot… not a tactical operation.”

Recently, a friend asked me: How to manage the 'put-on moment' during sex? I thought it was great, so I wrote this article based on my own experience and suggestions from our community.

 Turn the Wait into Foreplay

Instead of rushing through, let anticipation build the heat.

One queer said, “I lie there thinking, ‘Damn, I’m about to get fucked.’ The wait is half the fun.”

Another confessed she loves getting on her hands and knees while her partner straps up behind her — the sound of the buckles, the shifting sheets, the low hum of breath — it all feeds into the anticipation.

Try this:
Keep eye contact. Let her watch you put it on slowly. Adjust the straps with confidence. Slide in the dildo with intention. Make it a ritual. That slow, teasing preparation becomes part of the seduction.

Keep It Going — Don’t Break the Mood

If you’re mid-foreplay, there’s no need for the vibe to drop while you gear up.

Some couples keep the heat flowing with touch and dirty talk.

One queer shared: “While I put it on, she has to keep touching herself — and I make her hold eye contact the whole time.”
Another said: “I like when she keeps talking to me, teasing, whispering, while I strap in. It’s hot, not awkward.”

Crassie Tip:
Our Adjustable Jock-Style Harness is perfect for these moments — secure, soft, and easy to buckle even in the dark. You can slip it on without losing rhythm, and its clever design includes a buffer pocket behind the O-ring to reduce pressure and two vibrator pockets for teasing sensations while you wear it. So yes — even you get a little pleasure while giving.

Practice Makes Sexy

Tbh, strapping up for the first time can be clumsy. But our community had one simple secret: practice.

One woman said, “My ex could strap on faster than I could take my jeans off. She practiced alone until she could do it blindfolded.”

Another joked about “drills,” setting an alarm at random times just to practice getting it on quickly.

The point? Confidence comes from familiarity.
Try it when you’re alone — slide into your harness, adjust the straps, and learn your gear. That way, when the moment comes, you’re smooth, sexy, and in control.

Wear It Early (or Keep It Half Ready)

If spontaneity is your thing, a little prep goes a long way.

You can wear your harness like underwear beforehand — they’re comfortable, easy to move in, and simple to take off or adjust when things heat up. Many lesbians love this approach because it keeps the moment flowing naturally; no need to pause and fumble with straps in the middle of foreplay.

Others keep their harness “half-ready” — the dildo already in, straps adjusted.

Crassie's Favorites for Fast Play:

• SnugHer Boxer Harness – hugs your body securely, perfect for wearing under clothes.

• Crassie Lingerie Strap On Harness – soft, sensual, and built for quick transitions between foreplay and penetration.

• Rose Bendable Dildo Kit – ultra-flexible and ideal for couples who want smooth, natural movements without fuss.

With the right fit, the harness becomes an extension of your body — not an interruption.

Keep a Sense of Humor (It’s Sexy!)

The most consistent advice? Don’t take it too seriously.

One commenter said, “We literally sing ‘Awkward lesbian moment!’ while I’m strapping up.”

Another added, “Laughter is sexy.”

Sex between women has always balanced humor and heat — that’s part of what makes it real. Laugh off the tangled straps. Tease her about being impatient. Let the mood stay playful.

Find Gear That Fits You

Sometimes, awkwardness comes from the wrong gear. A good harness should feel like a second skin — firm but comfortable, supportive but flexible.

Crassie Harnesses are designed with comfort and inclusivity in mind:

• Waist size from XS to 3XL, made for queer bodies of all shapes.

• Three pockets: one large buffer for comfort, two small ones for bullet vibes.

• Soft, breathable fabric for long sessions — no digging, no slipping, no chafing.

“Our design team created this for real queer play — because pleasure shouldn’t hurt, and comfort shouldn’t compromise heat.”

Pair it with a Viva Vibrating Dildo for extra mutual pleasure — the bullet vibe at its base radiates vibrations through the shaft, giving both partners that shared pulse that feels alive.

Here’s what our community wants you to remember:

• Don’t rush — anticipation is half the thrill.

• Keep the energy alive — talk, touch, tease.

• Choose comfortable gear (and practice wearing it).

• Laugh through the awkward parts — connection beats perfection.

Or as one woman beautifully put it:

“I love the wait. The sound of her strapping in behind me makes me lose my mind. By the time she touches me, I’m already halfway gone.”

In the end, the strap on moment isn’t something to get through — it’s something to embrace. It’s connection, trust, rhythm, and laughter, all wrapped into one ritual that’s uniquely ours.

So next time you’re fumbling with the buckles, smile.
You’re not killing the mood — you’re building it.
And with the right harness and a confident hand, that “awkward lesbian moment” becomes one of the hottest things you’ll ever share.