Lesbian Sex Toys for Beginners

Do We Really Need Sex Toys?

One of the first questions many beginners ask is: Are lesbian sex toys really necessary? The short answer: No, but they can be transformative.

Plenty of lesbian couples are completely satisfied with fingers, oral sex, and skin-to-skin intimacy. Others find that toys add variety, deeper penetration, or simply free up their hands for other kinds of touch. Both experiences are valid.

As one of us shared in a community thread:

“Needless to say, I use toys frequently, especially strap-ons. Freeing up my hands for other things is irresistible. It takes a while to get used to them, but once you do, they’re a lot of fun. There are also ways to make your strap-on feel pleasurable.”

Toys don’t replace intimacy. They expand it. They’re tools that help us explore pleasure, power play, rhythm, and connection in ways our bodies alone sometimes can’t.

How to Choose Safe and Suitable Lesbian Sex Toys

When you’re new, the sex toy market can feel overwhelming. Vibrators, strap ons, double ended dildos, glass, silicone, harnesses… where do you even start?

The most important rule is safety:

• Always choose 100% platinum or medical grade silicone — it’s body-safe, non-toxic, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean.

• Avoid porous materials like jelly or rubber. They can harbor bacteria and break down over time.

• Pay attention to shape and size: beginner-friendly toys are smaller, softer, and easier to control.

You can also think about toys in categories:

• Personal toys — solo vibrators or slim dildos for masturbation.

• Partner focused toys — something you use specifically for your girlfriend’s pleasure.

• Shared toys — strap ons, double ended dildos, and toys designed for two.

Some lesbian couples prefer toys just for one partner, while others share everything. There’s no single right answer — it’s all about comfort and communication.

Recommended Beginner Friendly Sex Toys

Not every toy is suitable for beginners. If you’re just starting out, it’s better to keep things small, soft, and easy to handle.

For Solo Play

• Mini vibrators → Gentle, beginner-friendly, and perfect for clitoral stimulation.
  We recommend Crassie’s Yami Suction Vibrator, designed for discreet, powerful pleasure. Yami utilizes advanced suction and pulsation methods to provide a unique, tantalizing experience. The gentle yet effective sucking sensation mimics oral stimulation, offering an immersive and deeply satisfying encounter. Equipped with 5 vibration modes, Yami delivers a range of sensations from soft, fluttering teases to powerful, rhythmic pulses, catering to your every desire and mood.

• Slim silicone dildos → Ideal for exploring penetration without overwhelming size.
  We recommend the small size Velvet Dual Density Dildo, made of safe platinum silicone and soft on entry. Soft outer layer with a firm core. It's designed with sophistication in mind. Its striking look is paired with a carefully crafted shape that targets the G-spot and A-spot, ensuring an experience that excites and satisfies from the first touch. The soft dildos are pretty good for beginners, this avoids pinching, so start a small dildo dual density strap on and slow. Because the super soft outer layer is real feeling dildo and easier to move in, stay in and gently explore what moving the strap on toy in each direction slightly does for you how it feels, and what you need, slower, more lube, a little more, etc.

For Couples

• Beginner strap on harness + dildo → Gives you hands-free penetration, letting you focus on rhythm and closeness.
  We recommend the Rose Bendable Dildo Kit, which includes an adjustable harness and a bendable dildo perfect for beginners. Flexible yet firm and expertly shaped for G-spot magic, Rose can be strapped into a strap on harness for out-of-the-ordinary partner play or stuck to any smooth surface for hands-free solo fun. No matter how you use it, Rose bendable dildo is here to take your pleasure and pride to thrilling new heights.

• Double ended dildo → A flexible way for both partners to feel penetration together.
  We recommend the Dual Desire Double Ended Dildo, soft, curved, and made for mutual motion. 

  Designed for beginners and sensation seekers alike, each end of Dual Desire offers something unique: a fuller, curved shaft for targeted G-spot stimulation, and a sleeker, double-arched end that slides in deep, teasing the A-spot along the way. Together, they make every grind, stroke, or thrust feel perfectly tuned to your body.

  Use it solo for deep, rhythmic pleasure or hand one end to your partner and get closer—literally. The flexible C-shape bends and bounces with your movement, whether you’re on your back, straddling on a pillow, or grinding in sync with someone special.

• Couple friendly vibrators → Slim designs that fit between bodies for clitoral stimulation during penetration.
  We recommend the Viva Vibrator, designed to add vibration between partners without interrupting intimacy. （A Beginner’s Flow: From Foreplay to Full Play:1. Start with a bullet vibrator for clitoral foreplay, warming the body and relaxing nerves. 2. Introduce the dildo for penetration, letting your body adjust to size and rhythm. 3. Finish with the strap-on harness — insert the bullet vibrator into the harness pocket and activate vibration mode for hands-free, shared orgasms.）

At Crassie, we design queer first toys: non-realistic, body-safe silicone dildos, harnesses with comfort pockets, and beginner-friendly double-ended toys. Each piece is created with queer intimacy in mind — safe, soft, and made to share.

How to Introduce Toys to Your Partner

For many beginners, the hardest part isn’t buying a toy — it’s bringing it up. Here are some gentle ways to start the conversation:

• Frame it as curiosity, not a problem. Instead of “I think we need toys,” try: “I’m curious what it would feel like if we tried…”

• Start small. Suggest a clitoral vibrator before jumping straight into a strap on.

• Make it playful. Order together online, or treat the first unboxing like an adventure.

• Emphasize choice. Ask what your partner is comfortable with — size, shape, role.

Remember: laughter is normal. Trying toys can be awkward at first, and that’s okay. The point is exploration, not perfection.

Can Toys Be Shared Between Partners?

The short answer: yes, but with care.

• Always clean toys thoroughly between uses.

• If you’re switching from anal to vaginal, or between partners, use a condom over the toy to prevent bacterial transfer.

• Some couples prefer to keep “their” toys separate — one dildo for each partner. This can reduce tension and add comfort.

Think of it like sharing a toothbrush: some people don’t mind, others prefer their own. Respecting comfort levels keeps intimacy safe and fun.

Cleaning and Caring for Toys

Good care keeps toys safe, hygienic, and long-lasting.

• Basic cleaning: Warm water + unscented soap.

• Deeper cleaning: Boil or steam if the toy is 100% silicone.

• Special toy cleaners: Fine to use, but not required if you already clean well.

• Storage: Dry completely, store in a pouch or breathable bag to avoid dust.

• Condoms: A practical choice for easier cleanup and safer sharing.

Your toys should feel like an extension of your intimacy — not something you worry about every time you open the drawer.

Building Confidence With Toys

Lesbian sex toys aren’t a requirement for intimacy — but they can open new doors. They let couples explore penetration, rhythm, power play, and shared orgasms in ways that fingers alone can’t always replicate.

For beginners, the key is to:

• Start small.

• Prioritize comfort and safety.

• Explore with openness, laughter, and curiosity.

Whether you’re dipping your toes into vibrators or strapping on a harness for the first time, remember: toys are here to serve you, not define you.

Crassie’s beginner-friendly, body-safe lesbian sex toys are designed for queer intimacy — so you can explore safely, comfortably, and with joy.

FAQ: Lesbian Sex Toys for Beginners

1. Do lesbians need strap ons to enjoy sex?
Not at all. Many lesbian couples enjoy intimacy with fingers, oral, and clitoral stimulation alone. Strap-ons are just one option that adds penetration and frees up hands for other kinds of touch.

2. What’s the best first toy for a lesbian couple?
Beginner-friendly vibrators or slim silicone dildos are great starting points. For couples ready to explore penetration together, a simple strap on harness with a small dildo or a flexible double-ended dildo works well.

3. Are sex toys safe to share between partners?
Yes, as long as you clean them thoroughly. Using condoms on toys is recommended when switching between partners or between vaginal and anal play. Some couples prefer to keep separate toys for comfort and hygiene.

4. What toy materials are safest?
Always choose 100% silicone. It’s body-safe, hypoallergenic, and easy to sterilize. Avoid porous materials like jelly or rubber, which can harbor bacteria.

5. How do I clean lesbian sex toys?
Wash with warm water and unscented soap after each use. For silicone toys, you can also boil or steam them for sterilization. Specialized toy cleaners are optional. Always dry completely before storing.

6. How do I introduce toys to my partner?
Keep it playful and pressure-free. Share your curiosity, ask about her fantasies, and start with small toys. Exploring together should feel fun, not intimidating.