The word “strap on” has seen a remarkable rise in our search trends over the past year—and we’re not surprised.
More and more queers and nonbinary folks are embracing strap-on sex not just as a form of pleasure, but as a form of connection. It’s about more than penetration. It’s about presence, closeness, confidence, and communication—especially when the toy feels like it was actually designed for our bodies, our desires, and our experiences.
At Crassie, we've noticed it too. Internal feedback shows a consistent trend: we are craving more intuitive toys, better comfort during movement, non-realistic styles, and flexibility that meets their rhythm—not the other way around. Comments like “It just felt right from the first thrust” or “Finally, a toy that doesn’t fight me” come up again and again when we ask what makes a dildo truly satisfying.
Why the surge?
Because we’re finally being heard. Queer specific sex equipment is no longer a niche—it’s a necessity. And in that landscape, strap on dildos are becoming essential lesbian sex toys: deeply personal, playful, and powerfully affirming.
How To Choose The Right Strap Ons
Here’s the thing: not all strap ons are made with lesbians in mind. Many are designed with anatomical assumptions or materials that simply don’t support real queer connection. And while the shape of a dildo might catch your eye, it’s the fit, comfort, and compatibility with your body and harness that will actually shape your experience.
Let’s break down why getting the right strap-on matters—especially for lesbian couples.
Fit & Comfort
When it comes to strap-on play, poor fit equals poor feedback. A dildo that’s too rigid, too heavy, or too long can throw off your movement, your rhythm, and your connection with your partner. Crassie's soft silicone and dual density options are intentionally designed to bend with your body, not against it.
Community feedback consistently emphasizes this:
"I used to think I was bad at using a strap until I tried one that didn’t jab me back with every thrust."
– Reddit user
Queer Centered Design
Unlike mainstream toys, Crassie's non-realistic and color forward designs reflect our identities and aesthetics. These aren’t toys made to mimic men—they’re toys made to affirm us.
In Crassie’s own customer feedback and community engagement, we’ve seen a consistent pattern: lesbians and queer folks don’t want hyper-realistic toys—they want intimacy tools that feel authentic to our bodies and relationships.
Communication & Versatility
The right strap on dildo makes it easier to sync with your partner’s body. A flexible shaft can adapt to multiple positions, while a comfortable harness fit (like Crassie’s Boxer Harness or Adjustable Strap On Harness) gives you the freedom to focus on rhythm, not awkward adjusting.
Material Safety = Peace of Mind
All of Crassie’s strap on dildos are made from platinum-grade, body-safe silicone—non-porous, easy to clean, and free of phthalates or latex. This matters especially during intense or extended sessions, where hygiene, smoothness, and sensitivity can make or break your play.
At Crassie, we take all of that seriously. Every toy we offer is chosen to make your experience better—not just more pleasurable, but more comfortable and affirming. You deserve toys that work with your body, not against it.
Here are six standout strap on compatible dildos designed specifically with our comfort, connection, and creativity in mind:
1. Rose Bendable Dildo — Non-Realistic & Beautifully Curved
This rose-shaped bendable dildo combines elegance with function. Its posable shaft allows for tailor-made angles during penetration, letting you press exactly where it feels best — especially in positions like missionary or cowgirl. The non-realistic shape is a community favorite: soft, sleek, and proudly queer.
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Material: Platinum silicone
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Firmness: Soft and squishy with bendable core
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Base: Wide suction cup for solo or harness play
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Bonus: Gorgeous rose tip that looks as good as it feels
Price: [$49.00]
Compatible Harness: Works perfectly with [PrideHer Boxer Harness] or [Adjustable Strap-On Harness]
“My girlfriend called it the ‘swan of sex toys’ — beautiful and dangerous in bed.” – reviewer, New York
2. Bendable Rabbit Dildo – Green
Who said strap-ons couldn’t multitask? This unique bendable rabbit includes a flexible shaft and an external stim arm. It adapts to your body’s curve and can stay bent during thrusting — keeping clitoral stimulation front and center.
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Material: Platinum silicone
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Firmness: Soft with flexible core
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Base: Wide, stable, harness-compatible
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Bonus: Curved for G-spot targeting
Price: [$49.00]
“We had a threesome... me, her, and the rabbit. Spoiler: we all finished.” – Anonymous lesbian couple
3. Viva Cyan Soft Silicone Dildo Vibrator
The Viva Cyan is a dream for lesbians who love vibration with their thrust. This toy is soft, slightly flexible, and packs a subtle yet powerful buzz. For couples where one partner is still building confidence with straps, vibration adds another layer of intimacy and feedback.
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Material: Soft silicone
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Firmness: Removable bullet vibrator
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Vibration: 10 speeds
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Base: Flared, compatible with snug harnesses
Price: [$38.00]
Features: Built-in vibrator (multi-speed), soft-touch finish, harness-compatible
“I was new to strap-ons and nervous. This toy helped us slow down, tune in, and still have mind-blowing sex.” – Queer femme
4. Soft Silicone Dual Density Dildo – Velvet Touch Green
Dual density means a soft, cushy outer layer with a firmer inner core. The green velvet touch version glides effortlessly and feels luxurious. Pair it with Crassie’s boxer harness for a no-slip, body-secure experience.
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Material: Dual-density platinum silicone
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Firmness: Soft outer + strong core
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Base: Harness-ready and extra stable
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Finish: Velvety matte
Price: [$45.00]
“Finally, a toy that feels good for both of us.” – Butch top
5. Six Inch Curved Dildo – Blue Strap-On Sex Toy
The curve on this one is designed for a reason — to hit the G-spot from every angle. If you're newer to strap-on sex or want a lighter, easier-to-maneuver option, this is your go-to. It’s also great for those with tighter pelvic floors or who prefer shallower penetration.
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Length: 6 inches
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Curve: Moderate, upward
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Material: Smooth silicone
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Harness Fit: Tight and secure
Price: [$38.00]
“It’s cute, it’s blue, it’s curved like it knows exactly what it’s doing.”
6. Mixed Color G-Spot Dildo – Strap-On Sense
A gorgeous blend of color meets a perfect G-spot curve. This toy feels playful and functional — a great addition for anyone who likes art and orgasms. The base is suction-cup compatible and harness-ready, making it ideal for bath play or hands-free positioning.
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Material: Platinum silicone
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Length: 5.91"
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Diameter: 1.26"
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Base: Broad and compatible with Crassie harnesses
Price: [$29.00]
“This dildo is the reason I now moan during missionary.” – Crassie customer, anonymous feedback
Product Comparison Table
| Product | Length | Firmness | Bendability | Diameter | Best For |
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| Bendable Rabbit Dildo (Green) | 6.7″ | Dual-density | Fully bendable | 1.26" | G-spot + clit combo; flexible angles |
| Rose Bendable Dildo |
6.7″ (large) 5.9″ (small) |
Dual-density | Fully bendable |
1.34″ (large) 1.18″ (small) |
Beginners; custom angles |
| Viva Cyan Soft Silicone Dildo Vibrator | 6.5" | Soft | Slightly flexible | 1.38" | Vibration + penetration |
| Velvet Touch Green Dual Density |
6.4″ (large) 5.5″ (small) |
Very Soft | Slightly flexible |
1.38" (large) 1.14″ (small) |
Feels lifelike; firm control |
| 6″ Curved Dildo (Blue) |
7″ (large) 6"(medium) 5″ (small) |
Soft | Fixed curve |
1.5″ (large) 1.6"(medium) 1.7″ (small) |
Beginners: precise G-spot reach |
| Mixed Color G-Spot Sense Dildo |
6.5″ (large) 5.9″ (medium) |
Soft | Fixed curve |
1.26″ (large) 1.38″ (medium) |
Deep G-spot play; visual lovers |
Strap On Positions for Maximum Queer Pleasure
Let’s go beyond "just in and out." Queer bodies deserve more nuanced pleasure. Here’s how to get the most out of your strap—with technique and positioning.
Missionary with Hip Curve
Instead of just thrusting forward and back, angle your hips upward, creating a soft arc. This helps the dildo push into the G-spot rather than just glide past it. Pause with pressure before withdrawing—it intensifies sensation.
Best Toys: Velvet Touch Green or 6” Curved Blue
Tip: Press your thighs in to add stability and sensual pressure.
Doggy with Arm Wrap
Wrap your arm around your partner's waist and pull her gently into each stroke. Use short, controlled thrusts. Match her moans with rhythm, not speed.
Best Toy: Mixed Color G-Spot
Bonus: The curve lets you reach her inner walls easier in this angle.
Standing With Partner Bent Forward
Stand behind your partner while she leans over the bed or counter. Bend your knees slightly for more thrust control. Try rocking motions or circular patterns instead of fast in-and-outs.
Best Toys: Rose Bendable Dildo or Viva Cyan
Strap Tip: Crassie’s Adjustable Harness holds firm without digging in.
Spooning with Shallow Thrusts
Lie behind her, enter slowly, and focus on shorter, rhythm-based strokes. This angle can keep the base closer to the clit for mutual stimulation.
Best Toy: Bendable Rabbit Dildo
Bonus: Use your free hand on her nipples, thighs, or chest.
Strap On Care Tips for Safety & Longevity
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Wash Before & After: Use mild soap and warm water, or a toy-safe cleaner.
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Dry Fully: Air-dry in a clean space. Don’t store it while damp.
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Lubricant Matters: Stick with water-based lube. Crassie’s silicone toys are long-lasting but can degrade with silicone-based lubes.
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Harness Check: Make sure your harness fits snugly—especially around the base ring. Boxer harnesses reduce slippage and increase comfort.
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Storage Tip: Keep toys in a dust-free pouch away from other silicone toys.
What Our Community Says
“Once I found a dildo that wasn’t realistic, I finally felt seen. The Rose from Crassie changed how I felt about strap-on sex.” — Joey
“I used to think you had to go fast and hard. Turns out, rhythm and pressure are everything. That hip curve trick? Game changer.” — Reddit user
“My girlfriend and I started with the 6-inch blue one, and now we can’t go a week without it. It’s just the perfect curve.” — Crassie review
“The bendable toys help me feel more too. It’s not just for her—it makes me feel powerful and sexy.” — Crassie’s Instagram





