The Lesbian Sex Toy Market — Finally Catching Up?

For years, the lesbian sex toy aisle was full of things that just didn’t click — phallic overload, awkward shapes, stiff harnesses, realistic dildos, or toys that barely worked with our bodies. 

But things are finally shifting. More brands are creating lesbian sex equipment with intention — with our pleasure in mind. Think: strap on harnesses that stay put, dildos that hit the right angle, toys designed by queer people, and dual-ended designs for shared play.

Maybe we’re a little biased, but adding a toy (or two) always makes sex more exciting—and that includes lesbian sex. Whether you’re flying solo or tangled up with your favorite girl, the right lesbian sex toy can take your pleasure from sweet to unreal in seconds.

And that’s where Crassie comes in — we’re building what we couldn’t find anywhere else. Thoughtful, non-simulated, and body-safe lesbian sex toys that actually feel good. Let's break down what to know and what to try.

How to Use Lesbian Sex Toys 

Here’s the thing — there’s no “correct” way to use lesbian adult toys. What feels good for me might not be for you — and that’s the magic.

Some of us are all about external teasing. Some love the full strap-on experience. Others go wild for G-spot pressure or slow, deep grinding. You might want to wear the toy, receive it, or just play around with it solo on a Sunday afternoon.

What matters most? Communication, comfort, and curiosity.

Here are a few tips that work no matter where you are on your sex toy journey:

• Talk it out: Who’s wearing it? Who’s receiving? Are you switching? Set expectations before the clothes come off.

• Go slow: Especially with strap ons. The one wearing the toy can’t feel depth or resistance directly — start gentle, read the room (and her body).

• Lube, babe. Lube. Seriously, more than you think. Always water-based with silicone toys.

• Adjust and retry: If something feels off — angle, harness fit, size — don’t force it. Change it up.

• There’s no one way to do lesbian sex: Use fingers, use toys, use tongues, use whatever makes you feel hot, safe, and seen.

Lesbian Sex Toy Picks for Pleasure You Deserve

Crassie’s toys aren’t just cute — they’re designed by lesbians, for lesbians. Here are my 5 favorite sex toys for lesbian couples (and solo play), and how they fit into real-world play:

Strap On Dildo

Rose Bendable Strap On Dildo

This isn’t your average straight stick. The Rose Dildo bends to match your anatomy, giving that exact G-spot pressure we crave. The outer layer is velvety soft; the inner core has firmness for strap-on control. Comes in two sizes — perfect for beginners or size queens. Pair it with your fave boxer or adjustable harness and let the night flow.

Double Ended Dildo 

Double Ended Dildo DualViolet – Strapless Strap Ons for Shared Play

Think shared rhythm, synchronized pleasure, and the ability to move together as one. Experience dual pleasure with this expertly crafted double ended dildo designed for maximum intimacy. Featuring a nubbed end that targets and stimulates the wearer’s clit while offering satisfying penetration for both partners, this toy is perfect for enhancing closeness in any position. It’s sleek, flexible, and non-realistic — just how we like it.

Boxer Harness

SnugHer Boxer Harness with 1.5” O Ring

This is the harness if you're tired of straps digging into your skin or the dildo slipping around. Our SnugHer Boxer Harness uses a smart dual-layer O-ring panel that doesn’t stretch or sag, even during intense play. Plus, it’s available in plus sizes, so everyone feels secure and sexy. Hands down, this is my go-to when I want to take charge in bed.

Adjustable Strap On Harness 

Adjustable Strap-On Harness (Classic + Comfy)

This is your no-fuss, ultra-reliable, fits-every-body harness. Fully adjustable for a custom fit, great for newbies figuring out how they want to move in a strap-on. Holds any Crassie dildo in place and stays comfortable for long play sessions.

Vibrating Dildo

Viva Vibrating Dildo

Unlike most buzz-happy vibrators out there, the Viva keeps things simple, smooth, and lesbian-friendly. It’s curved for G-spot play, includes a removable bullet vibrator for clit action, and works great with or without a harness. Use it solo or slide it into your boxer briefs for extra thrills.

Use What Feels Good. Leave the Rest.

Here’s what I want every lesbian to remember: Sex toys are optional, not required. There’s no gold star for using a dildo. There’s no shame in not using one, either.

Some couples use toys all the time. Some never do. Some love them when things get long and steamy, and skip them for a quickie. It’s all good.

What matters is that you’re connected, comfortable, and choosing what actually works for your body and your vibe.

If sex toys help you explore, laugh, come harder, or connect deeper? Amazing. If not? Also amazing.

As always, I’ll be here building tools made for our community, our joy, and our bodies — no apologies, no compromises.

Ready to try?
Check out the full range of lesbian sex toys at Crassie.com, where every toy is crafted to celebrate queer joy, with style, softness, and support.