First Time Strap on Sex With My Girlfriend

• Some people have suggested some type of base cushion/grinder on the dildo, bumpher, or lippi when it comes to strap on sex. 
• What we don't get is how they are positioned within the harness or briefs when first time strap on sex ?
• Do they require a specific type of strap on harness/briefs?
• What we think is most important is that it doesn't feel loose and flappy, I want to feel like it's fit securely to me, and that I'm in control. And also that the dildo is positioned low, close to my clit. 
• It would also be beneficial if the size could be adjusted, allowing two people of different sizes to use the strap on harness.

Cute ideas.

You want the dildo steady on the harness, not loose, not floppy.

You want it riding low, right where your clit is, so when you grind, thrust, and move with intention, your pleasure connects with hers. That’s where the real intimacy happens. That’s where topping becomes electric.

You want CONTROL above all.

One of the easiest ways to use dildos for beginners

Start up close:

Kneel beside her on the bed, and you beside her.

One hand holding the dildo — keeping it steady, letting you feel every inch of her body responding.
The other hand free to hold her hips, touch her belly, tease her clit… whatever makes her melt.

The way her muscles pull you in when you hit the right place…

How her breath stutters when she’s ready for more…

It’s slow. It’s intimate. It’s ridiculously hot.

This is why Rose Bendable Dildo makes strap on sex even better, it bends to match the angle her body loves.

Her hips tilted up? Bend it more.

She wants you deeper? Curve it to find her G-spot.

You want to grind your clit against the base? Angle it lower.

The toy is built with three layers that make it:

• Super-soft on the outside → comfortable on delicate areas
• Supported by a firmer middle → no floppy frustration
• Posable metal core → shape it, set it, it stays

So instead of fighting the strap on toy, it moves with her — and with you.

This Rose bendable dildo creates that delicious sensation where the head doesn’t just poke — it tugs and massages that inner “come here” spot with intention.

For a lot of us? That’s instant G-spot fireworks.

Positions Of Strap on Sex That Hit Different

Most “sex position charts” online assume a cis man — but trust me, they translate beautifully when it’s two women and a strap.

Start with these unbeatable strap-on classics:

🔥 Butterfly
She lies on her back near the edge of the bed, legs open, you standing strong. Easy angle for the G-spot, tons of access for kisses, and you look powerful as hell.

🔥 Cowgirl
Let her take the throne. She rides you, grinds on you, controls depth. You get to watch her fall apart.

🔥 Spooning
Slow. Intimate. Perfect if she needs reassurance or wants to be held while she takes you deep.

🔥 Bent Over the Bed
Hands down, ass up. A teasing hand on her back. This one feels like delicious surrender.

Try a couple each session, take mental notes, rotate. You’ll build your own top/bottom choreography.

Strap on sex isn’t just about penetration.

It’s about pleasure to be shared.
Power shared.
Trust exchanged.

Take your time, and have the kind of fun that makes her crave the next night even harder.