There was a moment—not marked on any calendar—when we collectively decided that “strap on” felt too clunky. Too long. Too clinical. Too... not us.

From Strap on to straps — And Beyond

What started as lesbian sex toys has grown into something much more intimate. A language. A connection. A culture. For queer women, “the straps” is not just about penetration—it's about collabration expression, vulnerability, and trust.

And instead, we started saying “straps.”

Not in press releases. Not in textbooks. But in bedrooms. In text messages. In group chats with besties. On Reddit threads late at night when someone whispered, “So, who wears the strap?” and a hundred lesbians typed “👀” in response.

Today, it’s more than a nickname. It’s a cultural shift. A linguistic softening. A reclaiming of language that better reflects who we are and how we love.

So… when did we start calling it just “straps”? And why does it matter?

 Shortened Slang for Familiarity

Lesbians who are active in the bedroom or talk openly about sex began using “straps” as shorthand in the same way we say “vibe” for vibrator or “lube” for lubricant. It’s casual, intimate, and feels like insider language—just us.

• Saying “She put on the straps” or “I love using the straps with her” feels natural in WLW chats, group texts, or Reddit threads.

• It softens the more clinical “strap on dildo” while still being perfectly understood.

Reclaiming Language

“Strap on” can sound mechanical or even medical, especially to younger lesbians who didn’t grow up with affirming sex ed. “Straps,” on the other hand, feels queer, sexy, and ours.

The word “straps” also shifts the focus away from the object (a soft silicone dildo) and onto the act or dynamic, which better reflects how many lesbians experience it: as a power shift, a roleplay, or simply an extension of intimacy—not replaced penis.

Digital Influence

Reddit, Tumblr, and queer TikTok accelerated the use of “straps” in meme culture and discussions around sex positivity.

Threads like “Do you straps?” or “She was so hot in the straps” started popping up and the term stuck.

Even brands and queer creators are now using “straps” in blog posts and captions to connect more naturally with the community.

What It Means Today

When we say “straps,” we’re talking about something layered:

• lesbian sex toys , yes—but one that belongs to us.
• lesbian sex positions, a feeling, a dynamic.
• A tool of mutual pleasure, trust, and sometimes, power exchange.
• A way to say, “This is how I want to love you tonight.”

So when someone asks, “Do you like the straps?”—they’re not just asking about how to sex with toys . They’re asking about how you connect. How you give. How you take. How you open yourself up, or take control.

The word "straps" re-centers the experience around us. Our bodies. Our desires. Our terms.

Straps Is A Collaboration

For years, lesbian sex toys were viewed with suspicion in some relationships. Would they make someone feel “replaced”? Would they change the dynamic? But in queer sex, especially among lesbians, toys are part of the intimacy—not a threat to it.

Your partner shouldn't see the straps as an opponent— lesbian sex with toys are always collabration. 

We’re not using toys instead of each other—we’re using them with each other. They’re here to amplify pleasure, not replace connection. In queer love, we root for each other’s orgasms—and the right lesbian sex toys makes the journey that much sweeter.

Straps Is A Collaboration

For years, lesbian sex toys were viewed with suspicion in some relationships. Would they make someone feel “replaced”? Would they change the dynamic? But in queer sex, especially among lesbians, toys are part of the intimacy—not a threat to it.

Your partner shouldn't see the straps as an opponent— lesbian sex with toys are always collabration. 

We’re not using toys instead of each other—we’re using them with each other. They’re here to amplify pleasure, not replace connection. In queer love, we root for each other’s orgasms—and the right lesbian sex toys makes the journey that much sweeter.

The Straps 「 strap on kit 」That Says “I Know You”: ROSE Bendable Dildo + PrideHer Boxer Harness

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ROSE Bendable Dildo is no ordinary toy. It made from 100% body safe platinum silicone dildo, and it is posable dildo , You can bend according to your body, your cervix height, your mood. The dual-density design—soft as skin on the outside, firm where it counts—makes it feel real, but better. Whether you want shallow pressure or deep A-spot stimulation, ROSE holds its shape and responds to you.

And PrideHer Boxer Harness? It’s like slipping into your favorite yoga shorts. it is an active harness,  Breathable. Soft. Stretchy. Secure. No pinching, no awkward straps. Just you feeling powerful, comfortable, and completely present.

Together, they don’t feel like tools. They feel like art.

This Is Our Language Now

When someone asks, “Do you like the straps?” they’re not just asking about gear.

They’re asking how you show love. How you listen. How you give.

And when you say “yes,” you’re saying more than just “yes” to lesbian sex. You’re saying yes to joy. Yes to care. Yes to the kind of queer sex that prioritizes emotional connection and physical pleasure—on our own terms.

Because “strap-on” was never really about the object. “Straps” is about us.

And in our bedrooms, in our stories, and in our hearts—we’re building something beautiful.