The Best Lesbian Strap On Harness

I still remember the first harness I ever bought. I was excited. Nervous. Hopeful. And then it arrived… and everything just felt wrong. The straps were stiff, it sat way too high on my body, and honestly? It killed the mood faster than a vibrating toy out of batteries.

That’s the problem when most harnesses are designed without us in mind.

That’s why I started Crassie—to create strap on harnesses made by lesbians, for lesbians. Not some one-size-fits-all solution, but something that actually fits our bodies, our styles, and our needs.

What Is a Strap On Harness, Really?

A strap on harness is a wearable base that allows you to securely attach a dildo for penetrative play. It’s most commonly used by queer couples, but that doesn’t mean every harness is queer-friendly.

When we talk about a strap on harness, we’re talking about so much more than leather and buckles. We’re talking about control, comfort, intimacy, and the ability to express yourself in ways that feel affirming and powerful.

Types of Harnesses – And Which Ones Actually Work

1. Jock-Style Harness

Best for: Flexibility and access.

Why we like it: The open-back design makes it easy to pair with a vibe or fingers.

What to watch for: Can shift around if it’s not fitted properly.

2. Adjustable Strap-On Harness

Best for: Beginners or shared use.

Why we like it: Fully adjustable around the waist and legs, great for different body types.

What to watch for: Straps can dig in if the material isn’t soft enough. 

 

3. Strap On Harness Briefs

Best for: Everyday comfort, quick play.

Why we like it: Feels like your favorite underwear. Easy to pull on, discreet under clothes.

What to watch for: Less adjustability, so choosing the right size is important. That’s why Crassie’s brief harnesses come in a full size range, from XS to 3XL.

4. Boxer Strap On Harness

Best for: Tomboy style and full coverage comfort.

Why we like it: No straps or clips—just step in and go. 

What to watch for: Need strong stitching to hold the O-ring—Crassie uses reinforced layers for stability and comfort.

How to Use a Strap On Harness (Without Stress)
Let’s talk real. Your first time with a strap on harness doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to feel right for you. Here are my go-to tips:

• Start Solo: Seriously. Strap it on, wear it around the house, get used to how it feels against your body. Clean the kitchen in it. Make tea in it. Let it become yours before someone else touches it.

•  Find the Right Fit: A good fit = no pinching, slipping, or awkward toy placement. That’s why Crassie harnesses sit low—close to the mound—for better clitoral contact and more control.

•  Establish a Feedback Loop: Sex is better when we talk. “How does this feel?” “Should I go slower?” “You like that?”—yeah, these are magic words. Communication builds connection and confidence.

• Keep It Lubed: Water-based lube is your best friend—especially with silicone dildos. Use plenty. Reapply. And maybe keep a towel nearby, because things can get messy in the best way.

•  Add Some Extra Stimulation: Don’t sleep on vibe pockets. Crassie’s brief and boxer harnesses come with pockets right where you need them—slip in a bullet vibrator, and you’ll feel every. single. thrust. 

Common Harness Problems (and How We Solved Them at Crassie)
“It rides up” – Oof, we’ve been there. Crassie’s boxer and brief styles are made to stay low and close, where you need the most pressure and movement.

 “Nothing fits my size” – Our plus size strap on harnesses go up to 3XL, with flexible fabrics and no digging-in waistband drama.

 “I don’t feel anything when I’m the one wearing it” – Two words: vibe pockets. You can add sensation for the giver, not just the receiver. That’s the difference.

 “Too hard to clean” – Machine washable harnesses are a must. Ours hold their shape and softness even after multiple washes. (Because yes, you’ll want to use it that often.)

The Crassie Difference: Lesbian-Made, Community-Tested

This isn’t fast fashion. This is slow-love gear designed by lesbians for us. From the stitching to the shape, I made sure every Crassie harness makes you feel sexy, supported, and seen.

We’re not trying to mimic anyone else’s idea of sex—we’re defining what it means for ourselves.

Material Matters (More Than You Think)

No one wants itchy nylon or sticky plastic between their thighs. If you’re going to move, grind, or thrust with confidence, your harness needs to move with you, not against you.

At Crassie, we use:

• Cotton, Spandex and breathable mesh blends for softness and stretch.

• Body-safe stitching and reinforced O-ring zones, so your harness stays secure.

• Moisture-wicking layers to stay fresh—even in summer or during long sessions.

Finding Your Fit: Tips from a Queer Founder

Check for Adjustability – Especially for plus-size folks or partners of different sizes. Crassie’s adjustable strap on harnesses offer a range of 27–55 inches.

Look for Vibe Pockets – Crassie’s briefs and boxers come with internal vibe pockets (above and below the O-ring) for double pleasure.

Try on Without a Toy First – Wear it while doing household chores or lounging around. If it feels comfy while vacuuming? It’s gonna feel great in bed.

Choose Based on Feel, Not Just Looks – If you like the freedom of movement, go jock. If you want full-coverage comfort, go boxer. If you want quick and easy, briefs are your bestie.

Why Crassie Harnesses Are Queer-Designed and Queer-Tested

We didn’t just add rainbow colors to a product and call it gay. Every Crassie harness was tested, worn, and adjusted by queer users like me and my partner. We built this for us—and for you.

Whether you're new to strap-on play or looking to upgrade your setup, there’s a Crassie harness ready to make you feel confident, sexy, and in control.

We’re not just strapping on toys—we’re strapping into power, joy, connection, and sex that feels right.

So whether you’re:

Trying your first strap on and harness

Exploring power dynamics with a boxer strap on harness

Or looking for the best strap on harness briefs that don’t slide or chafe…

Crassie’s got you. I see you. And you are so worthy of good sex, good gear, and good love.

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