What Is Lesbian Sex?

Lesbian sex is valid, complete, meaningful, and real.
Whether it involves hands, mouths, bodies, toys, grinding, scissoring, mental intimacy, or shared rhythm—it all counts.

Why Do We Still Ask “What Is Lesbian Sex?”

Because society historically defined sex as:

Penis + vagina = sex.
Everything else = “foreplay,” “other stuff,” or “doesn’t count.”

This definition:

• excludes queer intimacy

• invalidates WLW pleasure

• makes lesbian teens grow up without a blueprint

• teaches women their intimacy is “less real”

• makes lesbians feel they must “explain” how they have sex

Crassie rejects this blueprint.

We believe:

Lesbian sex isn’t mysterious. It’s uncontained. It’s as diverse as the women who share it.

So… What Is Lesbian Sex, Actually?

Lesbian sex includes any act that brings arousal, connection, closeness, or pleasure between two women. It can be:

✔ Physical

• Kissing, touching

• Fingering

• Oral sex

• Grinding + vulva-to-vulva play

• Scissoring

• Mutual stimulation

• Using strap-ons, soft silicone toys, or double-ended toys

✔ Emotional

• Eye contact

• Erotic tension

• Verbal intimacy

• Shared vulnerability

✔ Sensory

• Body warmth

• Rhythm

• Pressure

• Textures

✔ Mental / Psychological

• Fantasy

• Anticipation

• Erotic communication

• Shared intention

✔ With or without toys

Lesbian sex does not require penetration, strap-ons, or toys to count.

But many couples enjoy toys because they add:

• rhythm

• pressure

• mutual stimulation

• deeper physical connection

• hands-free possibilities

This is where Crassie’s soft, non-realistic designs shine—made for WLW, without the male gaze.

Myth #1: “Lesbian sex = scissoring.”

Yes, scissoring exists (and many lesbians love it).
But no, lesbian sex does not equal one position or technique.

Scissoring is just one expression of WLW pleasure, not the definition.

Myth #2: “Real sex requires penetration.”

Nope.

Penetration is optional, not mandatory.

Many lesbians never use penetration and still experience:

• intense pleasure

• deep connection

• full-body orgasms

• emotional intimacy

Lesbian sex is not defined by:

• what goes inside

• what shape it is

• or how realistic it looks

This is why Crassie only makes non-realistic, soft silicone toys—designed for lesbian comfort, not male fantasy.

Myth #3: “Lesbians don’t need sex education.”

Quite the opposite.

Because WLW sex is often erased, lesbians grow up with:

• no guidance

• no scripts

• no models for consent

• no safety information

• no proof that pleasure is allowed

Crassie exists to fill this gap—a queer-centered, shame-free, soft-space brand built to support your intimacy without judgment.

What Does Lesbian Sex Feel Like?

Most lesbian intimacy is built around rhythm + closeness, not performance.

It often feels:

• warm

• connected

• slow or deep

• emotional

• intuitive

• body-to-body

• pressure-based rather than thrust-based

Many lesbians describe it as:

“More like dancing than like porn.”
“More like blending bodies than ‘doing’ something.”
“More like shared rhythm than penetration.”

Lesbian Sex Techniques 

Below are the most common ways lesbians have sex, explained simply and respectfully.

 1. Hands + Fingers

The most common WLW technique.
Allows:

• control

• softness

• pressure

• exploration

• slow build-up

Lesbian sex isn’t rushed—hands allow tuning into your partner’s rhythm.

2. Oral Sex

Focuses on:

• clitoral stimulation

• lips + tongue pressure

• slow intensity building

Many of us consider oral sex deeply intimate.

3. Grinding / Rubbing

Also called:

• tribbing

• vulva-to-vulva

• humping

• thigh riding

This technique is:

• body-to-body

• very emotional

• focused on shared rhythm

• deeply connecting for WLW

4. Scissoring (Yes, it’s real)

It’s not a joke—many of us enjoy it because:

• it provides direct clitoral contact

• creates body closeness

• allows matching rhythm

But again—it’s optional, not required.

5. Strap On Play

Popular because:

• hands-free

• more motion versatility

• allows BOTH partners to feel involved

• offers grinding stimulation for the wearer

• replicates shared rhythm rather than “pounding.”

Crassie Recommendation: The Bendable Dildo with Grinding Base

• flexible shaft

• soft platinum silicone

• wide clit-rubbing base for the wearer

• perfect for lesbian missionary, spooning, stand-and-grind

• works with all Crassie strap on harnesses

This design addresses common needs:

• comfort

• non-realistic shape

• mutual pleasure

• softer movement

6. Double Ended Dildos

Beloved for:

• mutual movement

• closeness

• shared penetration

• scissoring-like rhythm with more stability

Crassie Recommendation: Flex Double Dildo for Beginners

• soft, flexible C-shape

• beginner-friendly size

• allows both partners to feel connected

• perfect for slow rhythm lovers

Does Lesbian Sex Always Involve Toys?

No—many queers prefer:

• hands

• mouths

• natural grinding

• emotional closeness

But toys can enhance:

• pressure

• angles

• hands-free movement

• partner stimulation

• comfort during long sessions

Crassie’s designs are queer-first, meaning:

• non-realistic shapes

• flexible shafts

• clit-friendly bases

• 100% body safe platinum silicone

• inclusive for both toy and no-toy queers

A Modern Definition of Lesbian Sex 

Lesbian sex is:

Arousal, connection, or intimacy shared between women loving women—through any consensual act that brings pleasure, closeness, or emotional resonance.

It is not:

• a position

• a body part

• a formula

• a hierarchy

• something you “graduate into”

It is as valid as any other sexuality, full stop.

So… What Counts as Lesbian Sex?

Everything that:

• feels intimate

• feels shared

• feels intentional

• feels pleasurable

• feels emotionally connecting

If you and your partner define it as sex, it counts.

Lesbian intimacy is real, valid, and diverse.
You deserve more than outdated scripts and straight blueprints.

Your pleasure is allowed.
Your intimacy is enough.
Your sex is real.
And your relationship deserves tools designed for you.