There's No "Wrong" Way to Strapon Play

If you're reading this, you might've just unboxed your new Flex Dual Density Dildo with Grinding Base—and you're feeling the mix of excitement and "okay, now what?" vibes. I see you, and I totally get it. We've all been there, staring at it, heart thumping, wondering how it all comes together. Let's keep it real: this strapon combo it's just a thoughtful lesbian sex toys to deepen the pleasure, connection, and fun you share with your partner. The core of it is always trust, open communication, and mutual bliss.

Rocking the SnugHer panty harness with the Flex Pink dual density dildo and its grinding base is straightforward once you get the feel for it. It's designed for real comfort and true two-way pleasure—the wearer gets delicious clit stimulation from the grinding base, because why should only one of you get all the good stuff? No rush, no perfection required. We'll walk through it step by step, like a warm chat with your bestie. As long as everyone's consenting, checking in, and feeling good, there's no "wrong" way to Strapon play.

Prep First
Before anything else, let's set the stage. This isn't just about gear—it's about creating a safe, sexy space where you can both relax and explore without awkwardness. A little prep turns jitters into "oh wow, this feels incredible."

#1. Talk It Out First: Keep it simple and sweet: "Hey, I got this new lesbian sex toys that lets us both feel good while I wear it. Wanna try together?" Share what turns you on about it, your boundaries, and really listen to hers. First time strapping? Just own it! So many lesbian sisters say that chatting it through beforehand cranks the anticipation way up.

#2. Gather Your Essentials: Water-based lube, a soft towel, mood lighting, maybe a scented candle or your go-to playlist to set the vibe.

#3. Clean & Care: Wash your strap on dildo with mild soap and warm water before and after every use. 

Assembling & Wearing Your Strapon

#1. Attach the Strap On Dildo to the Harness: The SnugHer has a reinforced 1.5" O-ring at the front. Slide the base of the Flex Pink dildo in from the inside; the wide flared base locks securely against the fabric. Give it a gentle tug to confirm it's snug but comfortable. Position the grinding base (that wider, ridged section at the bottom) facing inward so it presses directly against your body for that perfect clit contact.

#2. Slip It On: Step into the SnugHer harness panties like regular underwear, pull them up, and adjust for a comfy fit on your hips. The dildo will point forward naturally—the material is stretchy and forgiving, so no need to stress the exact angle. 
* Newbie tip of beginner strap on: Wear it solo around the house first to get used to the sensation. 

#3. Lube Up Generously: Coat the strap on dildo shaft and your/partner's areas with plenty of water-based lube. Don't hold back！Lube makes everything glide smoother and feel way more intense. If you're wearing, add some to the grinding base too for extra slippery, clit-hugging bliss.

Positions & Grinding Base

Start slow, look at your partner’s beautiful eyes, and ask: "How's that feel, babe?" The grinding base on the dildo will sends waves back to you every thrust, rock, or grind.

1. Missionary Vibes: Partner lies back, you on top. Begin with shallow, gentle thrusts, letting your hips stay close so the grinding base presses and rubs. Add some slow circular grinding and watch the clit stimulation level up.
2. Cowgirl/Rider Style: Partner straddles you while you're lying down. She sets the depth and rhythm; you focus on tilting your pelvis to keep that grinding base working its magic. Ideal for deep eye contact and building intimacy.

Remember: If your partner's bottoming for the first time, go extra slow—warm up with fingers, mouths, or a small vibe to ease in.

Aftercare

Cuddle close, sip water, and debrief: "What felt amazing? What do we want to change next time?" That quick, loving check-in keeps the emotional connection strong and sets up even better rounds ahead.

No perfectionism here—just pleasure, trust, and that electric spark between you. If the first time isn't instant fireworks? Totally normal. So many of us needed a couple tries to find our groove. You're valid, your desires are valid, and playing with this combo will only pull you closer.

By Whisky, Jan 15, 2026, a writer from the lesbian community. X-Follow @kispuppy0001