Why Size Matters

Hi, Bridge here — a queer, a community builder, and someone who’s had many conversations about size. No, not that kind of awkward locker-room chat — I’m talking about strap on dildos and harnesses, and why finding the right size for you makes all the difference in the bedroom.

At Crassie, we’ve learned something essential: fit is freedom. That means body-safe toys that feel good, harnesses that actually support movement, and options for beginners and seasoned strappers alike.

Let’s break down what size really means — for your dildo, your harness, and most importantly, your experience.

Why Dildo Size Matters (Especially for First Timers)

There’s a myth out there (fueled mostly by mainstream porn) that bigger is always better. But for many of us — especially those trying strap-ons for the first time — big isn’t hot. It’s uncomfortable. It’s intimidating. It’s a one-way ticket to “never trying that again.”

In reality, many of us prefer smaller dildos, especially when:

• They’re new to penetration

• They’ve experienced discomfort or trauma

• They’re exploring what kind of internal stimulation actually feels good

• They want more motion and less pressure

That’s why Crassie’s core dildo lineup includes small sizes in almost every design — including our Rose Bendable Dildo, which is soft, pink, cute, and beginner-friendly, and our Dual Density Velvet Touch Dildos, which offer a squishy, smooth exterior with solid internal support (aka: not floppy, not scary).

Beginner Tip: Start with a dildo that’s no longer than 4.5–5 inches and no wider than 1.25 inches. That’s enough to explore G-spot sensations without overwhelming your body.

And don’t forget — it’s not about the size of the toy, it’s about the control, communication, and chemistry you bring to it.

 For the Size Queens (Or Just the Strap-Obsessed)

Now let’s talk about bigger sizes — because yes, some queers do love the feeling of fullness, deeper penetration, or a more powerful dynamic. If you or your partner loves that sensation, Crassie’s medium and large sizes are all still made from ultra-soft, platinum-grade silicone, meaning they’re safe, bendable, and comfortable — even in a power position.

Our Double-Ended DualViolet Strapless Dildo offers flexibility for mutual penetration, while our Viva Vibrating Dildo has a bit more heft and internal buzz for advanced users.

Advanced Play Ideas:

• Doggy with a long, curved dildo (for deeper G-spot/A-spot play)

• Stand-and-ride using a strong suction base

• Hands free play with bullet vibes in a harness pocket

Harness Size: What’s on the Outside Matters Too

It’s not just the dildo size that changes the game — harness fit is everything.

A loose or saggy harness? Total vibe killer. It makes the dildo droop, bounce, or move around unpredictably. A too-tight harness? You’ll feel restricted and awkward. It’s like trying to dance in jeans two sizes too small.

That’s why we made Crassie’s PrideHer Boxer Harness in seven full sizes (XS–3XL) — because every body deserves a good fit, from our tiniest queers to our beautiful plus-size babes.

 What makes it work:

• Mid-rise boxer cut that feels like comfy underwear

• Double-lock stitching for stability

• Sweat-wicking fabric = no swamp crotch

• Two bullet vibe pockets (above and below the O-ring!) = customizable pleasure

We know that offering this many sizes takes extra effort, but we built Crassie for you. You deserve harnesses that fit and flex with your body, no matter how you like to play.

 How to Find Your Perfect Strap On Setup

Whether you’re nervous, curious, or ready to ride — here’s how to size your strap-on play just right:

Talk from Our Community

We’ve seen it on Reddit/Thread/TikTok over and over:

• “I thought strap-ons weren’t for me until I tried one that fit.”

• “Size made the difference. My ex wanted huge toys, but I needed soft and small.”

• “It wasn’t about the length, it was the way she used it.”

That’s why we keep designing toys with you in mind — soft where you want it, firm where you need it, and always size-inclusive.

What Feels Good Is What’s Right

There’s no trophy for the biggest dildo. There’s no shame in loving small and gentle. And there’s no “normal” way to enjoy strap-on play.

At Crassie, we believe in tools that help us feel safe, connected, and confident. Whether you wear the strap, ride it, switch it, or just like knowing it’s in the drawer — you deserve a setup that fits your body, your desires, and your vibe.

Want to explore our small size friendly toys, dual density dildos, and plus size harnesses? Head to crassie.com and let your size fit you — not the other way around.